If you have been accused of speaking belligerently, you are probably female. The idea that a man can be belligerent never occurs to anyone. The Lord God Almighty would like to have everyone described in positive and uplifting terms. Say only what is helpful for building others up, and for building up the kingdom of God. Speak to one another with psalms, hymns, and spiritual songs. Tell them "I will be the wind beneath your wings." Make to them the same promises made in Scripture.
Exodus 17:8-11 describes a time when the Amalekites attacked God's people. Moses told Joshua, "Choose some of our men and go out to fight the Amalekites. Tomorrow I will stand on top of the hill with the staff of God in my hands." When Moses did as he had promised, Joshua and his men were winning, and when he lowered his hands, the Amalekites were winning. They refused to accept defeat and others in turn offered support to Moses so that he could keep his promise to Joshua.
Exodus 17:12-14 states that "When Moses' arms grew tired, Aaron and Hur brought a stone for him to sit on, while they stood beside him and held up his arms, holding them steady until the sun went down. In this way Joshua totally defeated the Amalekites." Do the same for your fellow brothers and sisters in the kingdom of God. Stand beside them as they defend against the attacks of the enemy. Hold up their arms. Decide that you will not allow anyone to suffer defeat.
The Lord God Almighty El Shaddai